How to Talk to Your Child About Starting Therapy

Before the conversation

A little preparation makes the talk easier:

• Get clear on why. Think about what you have noticed and what you hope counseling can help with, in plain words. "You have seemed really stressed about school lately" lands better than a label.
• Pick a calm moment. Car rides, walks, or quiet time at home often feel less intense than a sit-down talk.
• Check your own feelings. If you feel worried or guilty, that is understandable. Try to settle yourself first so your child does not pick up on the worry as a sign that something is seriously wrong.

What to say, by age

For younger kids (around 10 to 12): Keep it short and concrete. "A counselor is like a coach for feelings. You get to talk about what's on your mind, and they help you figure out ways to handle big feelings." Let them know you will be involved and that they can ask questions anytime.

For teens: Be direct and respect their independence. "I've noticed things have been hard lately, and I think it could help to have someone to talk to who isn't me. What do you think?" Teens often respond better when they have a say, such as helping choose between in-person and telehealth, or picking an appointment time that works around school.

At any age, avoid framing therapy as a punishment or a consequence. That can make it feel like something being done to them rather than for them.

Answering common questions

Kids and teens often ask a few of the same things:

• "Is something wrong with me?" "No. Lots of people talk to counselors, kids and adults. It's a way to get support, the same way you'd see a doctor or a tutor."
• "Will you know everything I say?" "Your counselor will explain how privacy works at the first session, including what stays between you and them and when I'd be included."
• "What if I don't like them?" "Then we'll tell them, and we can look for someone who's a better fit."

If your child does not want to go

Some resistance is normal, especially with teens. Try to listen to the reason behind it. Are they worried about what friends will think? Nervous about talking to a stranger? Uncomfortable with the setting? Naming the worry often helps.

You might suggest trying a few sessions before deciding, or offer some choice in the details. Some teens open up more easily from their own room by telehealth, while others prefer coming into the office. It can also help to know that the first session is mostly getting to know each other.

People also ask

Should I be in the room during my child's sessions? It depends on your child's age and needs. Parents are usually involved in some way, and your child's clinician will explain how it works at the start.

What age does Roots see? Roots sees young people ages 10 and up. We also run a weekly Youth DBT group for teens ages 14 to 18.

Can my teen do therapy online? Yes. Sessions can happen at our Cedar City office or by secure video anywhere in Utah.

What if the whole family is struggling? Family counseling can bring parents and siblings into the conversation, alongside or instead of individual sessions.

How Roots can help

Roots offers teen and adolescent therapy across Utah by telehealth and teen therapy in Cedar City at our office on N Main Street. Our clinicians focus on building trust first, so young people can feel heard at their own pace.

Ready to reach out?

Call (435) 233-2240, Monday to Friday, 9 AM to 5 PM, or send a message through our contact page. We will help you find a clinician who fits your child.